Jackie Sorensen, a partner in our Be Brave. Lose the Beige business, prescribed an exercise during a session with a group of Lady Boomers. She recommended identifying a word that might encapsulate our yearnings and goals for the new year. Jackie chose “courage” as a word she hoped to live with throughout 2014. Courage to face age-old fears inhibiting her in previous years, and “forgiveness” of those who might have been hurtful in times past. Liz chose a three word sequence – “pause, listen, and obey the still small voice within calling her toward her true self. Another participant selected the word “savor” to remind her to be mindful of the present moment.
This may be an exercise you want to conduct for yourself. Settle yourself in a quiet contemplative place and brainstorm several words that might be meaningful to you. Sift through them, live with them for a couple of days until you come upon one that might fit with your hopes and aspirations for the coming year. Let’s be honest, how many January 1sts have we diligently written out resolutions only to have them forgotten or overlooked in the ensuing months. New York times journalist, John Tierney, writes the following about New Year’s resolutions:
“On one hand, you are 10 times more likely to change by making a New Year’s resolution compared to non-resolvers with identical goals.
He goes on to suggest, however…
“Most people are not going to keep their resolutions all year long. They start out with the best of intentions, expecting they will find the willpower to succeed. By the end of January a third will have broken their resolutions; by July more than half will have lapsed.”
A site called Oneword365 (www.oneword365.com) urges people to scrap the long list of goals and choose just one word that sums up who you want to be or how you want to live. One word you could actually remember and focus on every day all year long.
Baby Boomer women, Lady Boomers as we like to call ourselves, tend to put themselves on hold while they tend to the needs of family and friends. Be Brave. Lose the Beige encourages Lady Boomers to discover, or in many instances, re-discover, their own colorful spirits. Losing the beige is not just about color (although we are crazy about colors..all colors, the more the better) Be Brave, Lose the Beige is really a life choice, a way of thinking about and viewing the world. Bravery may be required as you assert the need for time to engage in pursuits of your own choosing. Color and joy will begin seeping back into a life turned beige by all the obligations and responsibilities we face on a daily basis.
So, if you want to make a resolution, resolve to choose you this year. Identify a word that sums up who you want to be and how you want to live.
Liz Kitchens and Jackie Sorensen are the founders of Be Brave. Lose the Beige. They conduct workshops and retreats focusing on relevant issues facing Lady Boomers (women of the Baby Boomer generation). We welcome women to become a part of our Be Brave. Lose the Beige community (we are quite inclusiv of all age categories) Click here to join our mailing list – http://tinyurl.com/m8qtefu or visit our website at http://www.bebravelosethebeige.com. Email us at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.